Use Your Loaf

Use Your Loaf: 

Use your head. Think smart.

..and I'm back and trying to catch up on my back logs. The past few days have been physically draining and demotivating since I got admitted for 4 days. Now that I am out of my prescribed medicines, I don't feel so disoriented anymore. Today's choice of topic would be about abandonment. 

How high is your tolerance for pain? When is the right time to call it quits? 

A lot of people in their 20s who have stable jobs, stable income and a routine all planned out for them stay in a long-term relationship though most of the time it turns out to be toxic. In a black and gray spectrum and in a 3rd person's POV, we ask, why would they want to do that to themselves? Do they even know that they're wasting their youth and better opportunities because they chose to tie themselves down to something that will probably break them after it's over?

Most probably not. For the most of us, we choose to be silent rather than earn the ire of the ones we know who seem to be in this situation including me. I'd rather see my friend hurt and learn from a broken relationship than spare her the heartache and leave her forever wondering if she made a right decision of following my advice. 

Most of the time, we talk about the ones who left. You might be the one who was strong enough to leave, and there's no judgment here. The ones who are usually left are the ones that are rarely talked about. We never really talked about all the questions that were never asked, all those late night over-thinking of what went wrong over a bottle of Red Horse too many. We've seen open-letters online about how that someone will be fine even after all that's said and done but what the person who left might not know is that in his leaving, he changed her. 

For the better.

Things will never be the same for that person but isn't that a good thing? She will grow, she will move on and learn to live life without you and she will finally be free. Know that the point of no return has come and you won't have the power to hurt that person again. If you care for that person, don't come back so that she can learn how to care for herself more 

 Floral Top: Forever 21|Midi Skirt: Brandless;Thrifted|Belt: H&M|Strappy Block Heels: Zalora|Watch: Esprit

When it rains, it pours

When It Rains, It Pours: 

When something good or bad occurs, it usually occurs more than once and often within a short  period of time.

Are you on your quarter life crisis phase? I remember that I was having mine a few years back and it was a never heard-of thing. In fact, a friend just chalked it up to my PMS-ing. I felt quite misunderstood then but quarter life crisis IS REAL. I think that this moment in our lives stemmed from peer pressure, social media and the feeling of inadequacy in the midst of the environment which constantly remind us that we are far better than what we think we are. 

I am now 29 years old and I've been given a middle management position before reaching my 30s. Though I am 100% confident and competent job-wise, I can't say the same with the direction of my life and if you are like me, I want to assure you that IT'S OKAY. 

We are not supposed to figure out what our life would be 5,10 or 15 years from now because life will always be a continuous pursuit of what you like, what you want to do and what makes you happy. Death is a conclusion of what you have discovered about yourself and no one wants to live a life constantly finding out what's NOT for you.

OVERRATED right? 

IT IS.

But are you actually applying that in real life? Because the debate of chasing your happiness vs. being financially stable is always present. 

Do they even have to be against each other? Or am I being too idealistic?

In the end, it's a matter of perspective. You can either wake up on a Monday being grumpy that you have an 8-5PM obligation to fulfill or wake up feeling grateful that you heard your alarm right, you are awake, and you have a life which you can either make or break. Others are not as lucky.

In my previous blog posts, I've mentioned about the erratic weather conditions here in my island, I've also talked about having to don an appropriate office attire and this set is one of those I bought at ukay-ukay that only cost me Php20/each

I KNOW RIGHT?!

 I can name a few who always say that I don't dress according to my age (act is for another lengthy blogpost) I am not quite sure if that's a compliment or a dose of charity but really, how does one dress according to age? Perhaps it's one of those questions that I have to crowdsource for an answer. In an attempt to uhm, fit in to prevent the ire of the superiors concerned (also not to jinx my used-to be pending promotion), I decided to dress safely..and by safely I mean not showing my arms and skirt not two inches above the knees safely. 

Cotton Long sleeves: Brandless;Thrifted| Barathea A-Line skirt: Brandless;Thrifted|Brown Flats: Upper East Side-Payless