Sixth sense

Sixth Sense: 
A paranormal sense that allows you to communicate with the dead.

Three years ago, my father died, three years hence, my view of life has altered completely. Ironically, the death of a loved one can make you realize how life is fragile and in a sudden snap of a finger, you have to make alterations that will change the course of your future and this made me note of things that I will teach to my future minions that I didn't learn from inside our outside the classroom, and here are those things:

1. How to cope up with the loss of a loved one. I was schooled in a private institution and we weren't taught how to deal with future emotional tragedies. Sadly, in the cases of death, one resorts to many ways just to fully accept the loss, a few of which can also be termed as "illegal".

2. If one is put into a make or break situation, you will do things you didn't know you are capable of doing. Always choose what's right even though it's an unpopular decision.

3. You are going to get hurt and it's inevitable. You have two choices, be sheltered all your life and lessen the chances of being scarred-but you are going to get hurt anyway, or get out there, give it your best shot, make it worth your while and risk the chances of being pained.

4. One of the best things in life is meeting people you are going to share great moments with. It might be a friend, another family member, or a distant relative. Find no shame in saying what you feel, life is too short for denials.

5. Regrets are part of life, if you can, choose what you are going to regret for. You will only have one chance at life, it will be a rough draft, and you will always be a work in progress. Find beauty amidst the madness.

6. Remind me that for every time you did something that will make me upset, I will ask you if you learned anything out of it. Your parents aren't perfect, one is not right in the head, when you have the guts, ask her why. 

  

          Off-shoulder top: Thrifted| Linen harem pants: Cocoon|Sling Bag: Accesorize|Watch: Rolex|Black studded flats: Zalora

                                          

Wild and Woolly

Wild and Woolly: 

Uncultured and without laws.

So much for the best-laid plans. I had my stay at home Holy Week itinerary laid out-which includes 40% household chores, and 60% spending personal time relaxing and updating this blog and our other blog. However, fate has other things in store for me. My husband had a viral infection which made him grumpy, irritable and a picky eater. I have to admit, the whole week was a test of my patience which made me realize that I actually had one and it's stretchable.

One thing I've learned from that experience was that as much as you want to take control of your life and think of every little thing, sometimes it helps if you don't go psycho anal on every aspect of your life and just CHILL. 

If you are my friend on Facebook, I posted this status yesterday:

I came across a post of someone on my Facebook feed about a certain someone who posts too much about every little thing that happens with her life and of course, it struck a nerve. Rather than confronting her about it, I did that status test. Turns out, she just confirmed that she posted about me by commenting on her own post about this status. If what I said was confusing, feel free to send me a private message on Facebook so that I can explain it to you.

Point of the matter is, I don't see anything wrong when you let your friends know that you love yourself without lording it over them. In an environment that makes money out of your self-doubt and insecurities, loving yourself is now considered an act of bravery, courage and rebellion when it should have been something as innate as breathing. We share posts about loving someone and the likes but we seem to be mum about loving ourselves. 

..and in loving yourself, it's your given right to cut ties with toxic people in your life for the simple reason that they make everything right feel forbidden. Never allow them to make you feel bad just because you find joy in sharing a part of yourself to others. 

Never worry about not having a core group who will understand and accept you for who you are because there will be and these are the genuine people that you will hold on to and keep. In knowing that there is nothing wrong with loving yourself in the right time, you will also transcend this kind of love towards others and at the end of the day, what matters is that you know that you have a good soul.

  

On to lighter things, I wore this one on a weekend wherein I had multiple errands. I think I just paraphrased that sentence from my other blog posts. Weekends are all about multiple errands to me so I want to be comfortable yet fashionable at the same time. 

During a bonding time with a good friend, she commented that the 90s fashion are back and I didn't exactly agree with her but as I was making this entry, I just realized that what she said was true. What I'm wearing here even has the 90s feel to it because I mixed my Tatum heels. Here are some of the pegs:

Photo grabbed from Chictopia

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Stripe Shirt: Brandless; Thrifted| Denim Shorts: Brandless| Black Heels: Flattery by CLN| Shoulder Bag: Coach Leatherware|Watch: Esprit