Water under the bridge

Water Under The Bridge: 

Anything from the past that isn't significant or important anymore.

I am in for a long day today. We will have our monthly evaluation along with our bosses and I will be scrutinized as to how well I did last April. I don't normally have any problems work wise but the husband and I had a "civil war" a few hours ago and as with me and well, fights, they usually don't end well. I tend to sulk and be very very mad but as I am very much determined to improve, I just decided to keep my mouth shut the whole drive.

If you think it's taboo that I shared what happened awhile ago, let me tell you that it's normal for married couples to argue and bicker. You'd think that over the period that we dated, moved in a place together and officially got married, we'd be living in harmony, but no. Relationships don't work that way. The greatest challenge of making up after a fight is trying to communicate like an adult that we are when, to be honest, I'd rather act like a spoiled brat. 

One tends to set a bar when it comes to finding the "man of their dreams" or the "girl of their wildest fantasies"and of course, the standards are high, after all, YOU deserve the best. The journey of dating, experimenting and starting all over again can be a very tedious process so if you want to take up on something more fulfilling instead, try to be a person for others. Detach yourself for a time so that you can have all the space and energy for growth because love happens inside of you. 

When getting into an exclusive relationship, understand that it requires multiple and multi-tasking skills. If you call FB-ing and texting at the same time as a skill, then it's time to stop acting like a robot and feel like a human being. 

Find a life partner who accepts that you are different from others and wouldn't have you any other way. Yes you are allowed to have weird habits, you can have strange preferences and it's okay. When s/he "gets" you, call it magic. Love is acceptance and love is a gift

Okay, on to the my outfit. I wore this one a few weeks ago when my mother-in-law visited us. My life is full of multiple errands so I have to be on-the-go always. My temperature was spiking from 37-39 degrees but I paid it no mind since I want to make the most of my MIL's visit. 

Again, I bought a blouse that's shaped like a dress. It would have been easy-peasy to just pair this with leggings but I took into consideration that we will be going to Sto. Niño and it's very hot. I took the "Batang 90s" route and paired it with my combat boots. 

We stopped by SM Seaside to grab a quick bite so I hid my cycling shorts and made this top look like I was really wearing short dress making my legs look longer

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Mini Dress: Odioli|Bag: Sta. Barbara Polo Club|Combat Boots: People are People

Use Your Loaf

Use Your Loaf: 

Use your head. Think smart.

..and I'm back and trying to catch up on my back logs. The past few days have been physically draining and demotivating since I got admitted for 4 days. Now that I am out of my prescribed medicines, I don't feel so disoriented anymore. Today's choice of topic would be about abandonment. 

How high is your tolerance for pain? When is the right time to call it quits? 

A lot of people in their 20s who have stable jobs, stable income and a routine all planned out for them stay in a long-term relationship though most of the time it turns out to be toxic. In a black and gray spectrum and in a 3rd person's POV, we ask, why would they want to do that to themselves? Do they even know that they're wasting their youth and better opportunities because they chose to tie themselves down to something that will probably break them after it's over?

Most probably not. For the most of us, we choose to be silent rather than earn the ire of the ones we know who seem to be in this situation including me. I'd rather see my friend hurt and learn from a broken relationship than spare her the heartache and leave her forever wondering if she made a right decision of following my advice. 

Most of the time, we talk about the ones who left. You might be the one who was strong enough to leave, and there's no judgment here. The ones who are usually left are the ones that are rarely talked about. We never really talked about all the questions that were never asked, all those late night over-thinking of what went wrong over a bottle of Red Horse too many. We've seen open-letters online about how that someone will be fine even after all that's said and done but what the person who left might not know is that in his leaving, he changed her. 

For the better.

Things will never be the same for that person but isn't that a good thing? She will grow, she will move on and learn to live life without you and she will finally be free. Know that the point of no return has come and you won't have the power to hurt that person again. If you care for that person, don't come back so that she can learn how to care for herself more 

 Floral Top: Forever 21|Midi Skirt: Brandless;Thrifted|Belt: H&M|Strappy Block Heels: Zalora|Watch: Esprit